Some +ve thoughts

1.      Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain. But most of the happiness and growth occurs
while you are climbing it.

2.      Though there are millions of people in this world, why were you born?
The reason is – God is expecting something from you which is not possible by millions.

3.      Always look for what’s wrong before looking for who is wrong. Read it once again and keep your relations safe and strong…

4.      A butterfly lives only 14 days, but still it flies joyfully capturing many hearts while collecting nectar in its path. Each moment in life is precious – Live it and Win it…
 
5.      Destiny depends on the strength of your desire. If you cry at trouble, it grows Double. And if you laugh at trouble it disappears like a Bubble.

6.      Aap ka khush rahana hi, aap ka bura chahane walon kae liye sabse badi sazaa hai. So be Happy always.

7.      A successful relation doesn’t depend on how good understanding we have; rather it depends more on how better we avoid mis-understandings…

8.      Start your day with this belief – As long as there is someone in the sky to protect me, there is no one on earth who can break me…

9.      Don’t leave any work unfinished even by a small margin. Because  even “99” doesn’t have the power and glamour of a “Century” 

10.  Attraction is temporary love. Love is permanent attraction! Just a play of words, but makes a lot of difference in life . . .

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Think +ve, Be +ve

Ajit Vidyadharan

Certified Wealth Manager / Financial Advisor
Certified Trainer, Certified Leadership & Performance Coach

Sabhav Wealth Management Services
+919664966416

10 Questions That Create Success

 Want help focusing on what really matters? Ask yourself these on a daily basis.

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Think that success means making lots of money? Think again.

Pictures of dead presidents have never made anybody happy. And how can you be successful if you're not happy? And buying things with that all money isn't much better. A new car, for instance, might tickle your fancy for a day or two–but pride of ownership is temporary.

Real success comes from

"the quality of your relationships and the emotions that you experience each day".

That's where these 10 questions come in.

Ask them at the end of each day and I absolutely guarantee that you'll become more successful. Here they are:

1. Have I made certain that those I love feel loved?

2. Have I done something today that improved the world?

3. Have I conditioned my body to be more strong flexible and resilient?

4. Have I reviewed and honed my plans for the future?

5. Have I acted in private with the same integrity I exhibit in public?

6. Have I avoided unkind words and deeds?

7. Have I accomplished something worthwhile?

8. Have I helped someone less fortunate?

9. Have I collected some wonderful memories?

10. Have I felt grateful for the incredible gift of being alive?

Here's the thing. The questions you ask yourself on a daily basis determine your focus, and your focus determines your results.

These questions force you to focus on what's really important. Take heed of them and rest of your life—especially your work—will quickly fall into place.

{Reference inc.com from an article by Geoffrey James}
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Think +ve, Be +ve

Ajit Vidyadharan

Certified Wealth Manager / Financial Advisor
Certified Trainer, Certified Leadership & Performance Coach
Sabhav Wealth Management Services
+919664966416

 

Some facts on Old age

1.    Growing old is tough because it means coming to terms with gradual decay and debilitation. As we grow old we have fewer real friends. Instead we get ailments to keep us company.

2.    John Updike in his novel “The Widows of Eastwick –
a.    “Old age is a penalty for living longer than our cave-dwelling ancestors”.
b.    We get doddering characters with hands “repulsively emaciated and veined, their arthritic joints shiny with painful swelling” 
c.     Bladders get moody “sometimes not a drop though you know you have to go, and at other times you laugh or sneeze and there go the underpants”

3.    Diana Athill in her novel “Somewhere towards the end” –

a.    “Growing old is simply what one has to pay for what one has enjoyed”.

4.    As per Registrar General of India:
a.    Average Life Expectancy in India jumped by 4.6 years in the decade up to year 2008.
b.    64.6 years for Men
c.     67.7 years for women

5.    7% (81 million i.e. 8 Crores 10 lakhs) of the 1.1 billion Indian population today is aged 60+ years.

6.    As per UN estimates, by the year 2025 there will be about 1,200 million people aged 65 years +

(Reference – an article by Prasenjit Chowdhury in Hindustan Times, Mumbai 9 Oct. 2012)

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Think +ve, Be +ve

Ajit Vidyadharan

Certified Wealth Manager / Financial Advisor
Certified Trainer, Certified Leadership & Performance Coach
Sabhav Wealth Management Services
+919664966416

Be assertive rather than aggressive

Some people get angry because they don't assert themselves. They find it hard to speak up or to make their point, so they tend to keep quiet. But their anger is likely to simmer until they get to boiling point and they become furious - and everyone knows it.

If this sounds like you, it will help to learn to speak up for yourself sooner rather than later. You need to calmly make your point using the word 'I'. For example: 'I would like you to help me with the shopping.' Or 'I'd like you to explain what you need.'

By being assertive, you avoid becoming aggressive later. A good book to read is Assert Yourself by Gael Lindenfield.

Wear an elastic band around your wrist

Try using a diversionary tactic. Some people use imagery such as picturing a tranquil lake to reduce anger levels.

Another technique is to wear an elastic band around your wrist. When you feel yourself losing control, twang the elastic band hard against your skin. It will sting and hopefully stop you in your tracks, buying you a moment or two before you 'explode'.

If you pause, think and take a deep breath, the chances are you can avoid an outburst.

Don't argue after 9pm

There is no doubt that arguments can get out of hand late in the evening - particularly when couples are tired or a bit boozed. What often happens is something trivial develops into a major row. If this keeps happening in your house, agree a curfew on difficult conversations. You will find that any important issues are better talked about in the daylight hours, when people are fresh and sober.

Get more leisure

Many people work crazy hours these days. And many of these individuals seek help from therapists because they are constantly irritable and angry. Some admit to smashing keyboards or throwing things round the office. This is not normal behaviour.

Anger and irritation can be reduced by finding more time for you. So, try to delegate more and to leave the office earlier. Take a lunch hour or at least get out of the office for a walk - even if it's just for 20 minutes. Above all get more sleep.

All work and no play no longer makes Jack dull - these days it makes him angry, dysfunctional and sometimes mentally or physically ill.

Take plenty of exercise

Exercise is an excellent stress-buster - and if you reduce stress, you reduce irritability and anger. Everything from a brisk walk to a circuit at the gym or a game of squash raises the level of endorphins (happy chemicals) in your brain. Exercise also soaks up stress and enables us to work off our frustrations.

Have a laugh

Laughter is a great antidote to anger - particularly if you can laugh at yourself. It's almost impossible to stay furious if you find the funny side of the situation and can let off steam this way.

It can also be helpful to watch some comedy. If you can laugh and chill out a bit in the evening, you can go to bed feeling upbeat but tranquil. So, whether your taste is for Alan Carr or Dad's Army, try to watch your favourite show at least twice a week.

Drink less alcohol

Many people with anger problems find alcohol makes things worse. After a couple of glasses of wine, they find they simply have to make their point or put someone right. Often this leads to huge rows or violence. And it's common for the angry person to feel guilty or ashamed the next day.

It's not easy to drink sensibly if your friends are getting drunk all around you. But if you want to stop getting so angry, you might want to try drinking less or even cutting out alcohol altogether.

Drink more water

Various experiments have been done in schools to see if encouraging pupils to drink more water might improve concentration and have a calming effect on behaviour. And in some schools, it's appeared to work. Certainly, people tend to feel irritated if they are dehydrated.

If you are someone who gets angry easily, but doesn't drink much liquid, try drinking the recommended eight glasses of water a day. It's quite possible this will help to stabilise your moods.

Remember four letters

When you get into such a fury you're in danger of doing or saying something you're going to regret, whisper the letters SGCB to yourself. These stand for:

• Step back
• Grab hold of something
• Count to ten
• Breathe deeply

When we're furious, we always move forwards and may well be in danger of hitting someone. By stepping back and then grabbing hold of something and counting and breathing, we stop that momentum and gain control of ourselves.

Eat regularly

In our rushed lifestyles, it's common for people to miss breakfast or be too busy for lunch. But our bodies and minds need regular fuel. If you go too long without food, you'll become irritable and there is an increased risk you'll become angry. Try to eat a balanced diet and eat regularly. You will feel better and calmer if you do.

Understand you have a problem

Everyone gets angry. And sometimes anger can be a good thing, for example when it motivates us to do something about social injustice. But if your anger is out of control and threatening to damage friendships, romance or your career, you need to take action.

A good book on anger is Overcoming Anger - When Anger Helps and When it Hurts by Professor Windy Dryden. Dryden uses cognitive behaviour techniques to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger and demonstrates how angry moods can be changed.

Try an anger management course

Free anger management courses are very thin on the ground, but cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT) is a good treatment for anger because it examines and challenges negative thoughts and beliefs.

(courtesy / reference: inc.com)
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Think +ve, Be +ve

Ajit Vidyadharan

Certified Wealth Manager / Financial Advisor
Certified Trainer, Certified Leadership & Performance Coach
Sabhav Wealth Management Services
+919664966416